10 Qualities of a Good Lover from The Ecstasy of Surrender 1. You’re a willing learner 2. You’re playful and passionate 3. You make your partner feel sexy 4. You’re confident, not afraid to be vulnerable 5. You’re adventurous and willing to experiment 6. You communicate your needs and listen to your partner 7. You make time and don’t rush 8. You enjoy giving pleasure as much as you enjoy receiving it 9. You’re supportive, not judgmental 10. You’re fully present in the moment with good eye contact and can let go Source