Let me start off by saying that I love being a med-school wife. I love it because being married to someone who is doing what they absolutely love is really just the best thing in the world. Yesterday, Chris delivered a baby, so we celebrated with champagne. I mean, that's just fun. Of course, not everyone understands that, and sometimes that lack of understanding comes across in the form of terriblehilariousrude interesting comments. Some people are legitimately interested and ask normal questions or make encouraging comments. On the occasion that I meet a doctor's wife, I'll get something like a salute. And maybe a cookie and a whisper that it gets better soon. But most people say a variation of the same ten things. Every time I hear them, I think, "One day, I will write a blog post about the words coming out of your mouth." Today is that day, my friends. 1. But it's like a job, right? He gets paid to go to school? Did you get paid to go to school? 2. Wait...so he doesn't make any money? Crazy thing, with the 80+ hours a week my husband works at the hospital and studies, he doesn't have a second job. I know, I know, what a bum he is. 3. Loans are such a bad idea. So is giving unsolicited financial advice. 4. How do you even live like that? <-- WHAT IS THIS QUESTION?! Why do I hear it so much?! 5. "So are you like, poor?" There can only be two outcomes to this. Either we are, and it's offensive that you would comment on it, or we aren't, and it's offensive that you would think so. You should just always skip this question. 6. You guys must have so much free time since he doesn't have a job. 7. Oh! So it's like Grey's Anatomy? I can't even tell you how many people say this after I explain something like residency. I've never actually seen Grey's Anatomy, but I usually just say yes anyway. 8. Why didn't you just wait until after med school to get married? I don't know...love, maybe? Let's just go ahead and say that if someone is already married, you should probably never, ever ask them why they got married. 9. It must be so nice to never have to go to the doctor! On the days I'm feeling feisty (ahem, every day), I'll ask them if they've ever seen anything on TV about someone who was not a doctor, but kept a full stash of prescription drugs in their house...they say yes, and it's almost always a 60 Minutes or a documentary on a serial killer their talking about. So there's that. 10. So do you like, make tons of money? Source
