If you've lost that frisky feeling, you're not alone. Research shows that nearly a third of women and 15% of men lack the desire to have sex regularly. But there are things you can do to put the sizzle back into your sexual life. Jump start your libido with these expert-approved lifestyle changes. 1- Plan more date nights If a fun Saturday night with your hubby means watching Showtime in sweatpants, it could be killing your drive. Rekindle your romance by getting out of the house for an old-fashioned date. Your dates don't need to be grand romantic evenings; just going to the movies or out to dinner can reignite the spark you felt when you first met. "If it's too expensive to hire a nanny, ask your friends with kids to watch yours for the night and offer to return the favor," says Dr. Leah Millheiser, director of the Female Sexual Medicine Program at Stanford Hospital & Clinics. Chances are, they'll need a night out at some point too! 2- Pop a different birth control pill Hormonal changes take a big toll on your drive. Birth control pills can be one of the biggest perpetrators: they can reduce your body's production of testosterone, and in turn, your desire to get down. Certain varieties may even cause pain during sex. And even if you're not on birth control, being aware of your hormonal status can help you dial in your libido. Prolactin, the nursing hormone, decreases estrogen and testosterone in breastfeeding women, which can wreak hormonal havoc. Additionally, Millheiser warns that menopause can bring a decrease in testosterone and estradiol, a type of estrogen. 3- Check other meds, too Take a look at your medicine cabinet—your prescriptions could be behind your lower libido. Aside from birth control pills, common offenders include drugs for high blood pressure, gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), anxiety, and depression. "If a medication is the most likely culprit, discuss your concern with the prescribing doctor," Millheiser said. "It's possible that another treatment may be used with fewer side effects." 4- Divide household chores equally After a long day of work, you may head home for your other full-time job: being a parent. "After the kids go to bed, there's often cleanup followed by work that you've brought home," Millheiser said. "As a result, intimacy gets pushed to the background." If you and your partner are both working full-time, keeping the division of household labor equal and ensuring one partner doesn't shoulder the whole burden will make both of you happier in the bedroom and out. Set your room up for romance It's easy to get in the habit of letting your kids crawl into bed with you after they've had a bad dream, or sharing cuddle time with your cat or dog. These are major mood killers, Millheiser said, who suggests keeping the kiddos and pets out by simply locking the bedroom door at night. It may take some time to break these habits, but making the bed sexy again will make you more relaxed and ready for romance. 5- Add sex to your to-dos We schedule doctor's appointments, work meetings, and drinks with friends—so why not sex? It's not the most romantic approach, but setting aside a specific time with your significant other means you're making a commitment to having an active sex life. This way, you'll feel compelled to keep the appointment and be less likely to make excuses. 6- Use a lubricant Getting in the mood can be almost impossible if it is painful for you—but it doesn't have to be. One of the leading causes is dryness. "If vaginal dryness is causing pain during intercourse, try using a silicone-based lubricant or a vaginal moisturizer," suggested. Millheiser. "Silicone lubricants are longer-lasting and more moisturizing than the water-based alternatives. If this doesn't improve the situation, you may want to check with a gynecologist to see if vaginal estrogen therapy is appropriate." 7- De-stress before sex Everyday stressors—your job, your kids' grades, the leaky bathroom faucet—have a more powerful effect on your sex life than you may realize. Being stressed causes your body to produce more of the "fight or flight" hormone cortisol, which your body needs in small doses but can suppresses the libido when the body produces an excess. Before you hit the sheets, find an easy way to clear your mind, whether it's taking a long bath or curling up with a good book. [Broken External Image]:http://bcskeptics.info/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/mood-affects-libido.jpg Source
