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Have You Become the Doctor You Once Hated?

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    Have You Become the Doctor You Once Hated?

    Somewhere between the idealistic first day of medical school and the present version of ourselves stands a question most doctors avoid because it cuts deeper than any scalpel:

    Have we become the doctor we once swore we’d never be?

    When we were students, we observed the consultants who rushed through patients like items on a shopping list, the ones who barked orders, rolled eyes, dismissed concerns, or treated colleagues poorly. We whispered to each other:
    “I’ll never be like that.”

    Fast-forward years later—fatigue, bureaucracy, trauma, impossible workload, endless pressure, and emotional depletion—and suddenly we catch our reflection in one ordinary moment and realize:
    We are dangerously close.

    Or maybe…
    We are already there.

    So let’s examine the uncomfortable truth. No excuses. No romanticizing. No denial.
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    1. When Did Compassion Become a Luxury?
    Remember when compassion felt natural—flowing so easily that you didn’t have to think about it? When you cared about every patient beyond their lab values and diagnoses?

    Now, empathy feels like an energy-consuming assignment rather than an instinct.

    You find yourself responding mechanically:
    “Any pain? Eating and drinking? Passing urine and stool?”
    Instead of:
    “How are you coping? What worries you most right now?”

    Not because you don’t care—but because you’re drained. Compassion fatigue is real. Studies consistently link prolonged emotional stress in medicine with reduced empathic capacities and emotional blunting, especially in high-pressure environments such as emergency and ICU settings.

    Somewhere along the line, empathy became the first organ sacrificed in the body of burnout.

    2. You Rush Patients Because the System Suffocates You
    Once, you promised to give every patient time and attention.
    Now, your day is controlled by a scheduler who believes time bends like rubber.

    You speed through consultations.
    You interrupt sentences for efficiency.
    You finish patients’ stories for them before they even speak.
    You discharge quickly because 15 others are waiting.

    You hate yourself for it—but it feels necessary for survival.

    Patients think you don’t listen.
    You think you have no choice.
    Both things are true.

    3. You Thought the Angry, Cold Doctors Were Heartless. Now You Understand Them.
    The job changes people in ways textbooks never warned us about.

    The doctor you once hated:

    • Snapped when interrupted

    • Was notoriously blunt

    • Rarely smiled

    • Dismissed complaints as exaggeration

    • Seemed emotionally unavailable
    You once judged them as cruel, but now you recognize the signs:
    They weren’t cold—they were overloaded, exhausted, and broken.

    And now you are walking the same path:
    You lose patience faster.
    Your tone sharpens without warning.
    You feel irritation before empathy.

    You didn’t choose this transformation—
    It happened while you were busy surviving.

    4. You’re Too Busy Fixing Bodies to Notice You’re Losing Your Soul
    The hours are long. The demands are endless. The system takes everything. Something has to give—and too often, it’s humanity.

    Bit by bit, we trade:
    Hope for cynicism.
    Compassion for detachment.
    Patience for efficiency.
    Curiosity for protocol.
    Purpose for routine.

    Until the person left standing isn’t the doctor you wanted to be—
    but the doctor the system forced you to become.

    5. You Said You’d Never Talk Down to Students or Nurses
    Yet now—
    In exhaustion, frustration, and pressure—
    You hear words leaving your mouth with a tone you swore you’d never use.

    Maybe you snap.
    Maybe you dismiss.
    Maybe you forget what humility felt like.

    Then later, lying awake, you replay it and whisper:
    “What have I become?”

    You don’t hate students or nurses—you hate the stress that turns you into a version of yourself you don’t recognize.

    6. You Used to Believe Every Life Was Sacred. Now You Feel Nothing.
    The first time a patient cried in front of you, it broke you.
    Now you barely pause.

    The first death shattered you.
    Now you document it and move on to the next task.

    This isn’t heartlessness—it's armor.

    The brain protects itself from trauma through desensitization.
    But at what cost?

    If you numb pain, you numb joy.
    If you block sorrow, you block connection.
    If you stop feeling, you stop being human.

    That’s the moment many doctors realize they’re not who they were.

    7. You Thought Older Doctors Were Out of Touch.
    Now you see the truth:
    They weren’t out of touch—they were in survival mode.

    The job doesn’t just age your face. It ages your spirit.

    They weren’t cynical because they didn’t once care.
    They were cynical because they cared too much, too long, without support.

    You are becoming them.
    Or maybe you already are.

    8. You’ve Lost the Passion That Carried You
    Remember the fire?
    The excitement of first scrubs?
    The pride of first procedure?
    The joy of first gratitude?

    Now you feel like a machine:
    Task in, task out.
    Day in, day out.
    Emotionless. Automatic. Mechanical.

    Is this the dream?
    Or a slow suffocation disguised as duty?

    9. You Look at Medical Students andenvy Their Hope
    Their enthusiasm annoys you—not because they’re naive, but because you remember being them.

    Their excitement reminds you of the person you lost.

    You smile politely, but internally you think:
    “You have no idea what’s coming.”

    And that thought terrifies you more than you admit.

    10. You’re Afraid to Ask: Is There Still Time to Change?
    The scariest part isn’t realizing you’ve changed.
    It’s wondering whether you can ever go back.

    Can a burnt-out doctor rediscover compassion?
    Can a numbed heart feel again?
    Can a fatigued mind find clarity?

    Yes—if the truth isn’t ignored.

    The only doctors who never recover are the ones who refuse to admit they need to.

    So ask yourself honestly:
    Do you still recognize the person behind the white coat?

    If the answer is no—
    Then it’s time to save someone who matters just as much as every patient you’ve ever treated:

    Yourself.
     

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