In over two decades as a family physician I've had a lot of women confide in me. Their complaints about sex are much the same, year after year after year. Here are the top 5 reasons women don't want to have sex, especially after marriage. 1- They don't feel loved. For men, the feeling of being loved is often experienced during or after sexual intercourse. Men want to experience sex not only for the physical fulfillment, but for the emotional fulfillment they perceive during the actual act. For women, love is primarily experienced before sexual intercourse begins. Although the petting and caressing may serve to arouse a woman, the more essential role is that of conveying to her that she is loved. For women, this love needs to begin before getting into bed. Kindness and caring throughout the evening are a powerful aphrodisiac and more effective than Viagra. 2- They're too tired to relax. For men, sex often involves a state of physical arousal. For women, the opposite is true, and generally requires a state of relaxation. If a woman is too tired to relax, she cannot enjoy sex. 3- Their partners do not honor or understand their physical needs. Men often believe that what makes them feel good is what should make a woman feel good. This is almost never the case. Few of my women patients have ever said that their spouses ask about their sexual needs. "More and harder" is seldom the answer. A lack of true intimacy and honesty commonly prevents essential communication between partners. 4-They're uncomfortable with their bodies. Any woman who's been told she's too fat or too thin or too old or too anything will not feel comfortable exposing her body to her partner. This is especially true if the criticism has come from the partner himself. A woman will give herself to someone who values, loves, and protects her. If she feels threatened, she will withhold physical intimacy until emotional intimacy is re-established. 5-It feels like another job tacked on to the end of the day. For men, having sex allows them to relax. For women, it often feels like another job, another person to satisfy. Mothers, especially, spend all day giving to their children. By evening they would like a little comforting and relaxing themselves. If a husband does not attend to the physical and emotional needs of his wife, odds are, he'll be doing without in bed. In writing this, I realize it sounds like it's all the man's fault. But the truth is, it's fairly easy to please a man physically. That's just the way they're made. On the other hand, women require a lot of TLC to remain satisfied in their emotional and physical relationship with their husband. They require true intimacy, based on mutual love and respect. If this is not the case, husbands are out of luck 99% of the time. But here's the good news: rather than concluding it's the man's fault, I'd say this gives men a great opportunity to get what they want. The result is within your control. If you study your wife's wants and needs, you could become a true pro in love-making, and build a relationship that should last forever. Source